And it’s hard to determine the right time to speak up.
You don’t want to sound insensitive, but you him to start letting go of the past and embracing the future.
Keep in mind that everyone has catered to him for a long time, and that could possibly cause him to be a little bit selfish.
Not that it’s his fault, but he might forget how to date properly and might not make the effort. It is hurtful to wonder if he will ever love u as much as his late wife, if you’ll ever be the most important person to him, if his loved ones are comparing you.
’ There are both physical and emotional challenges.
Physical reminders–mementos, personal effects, wedding pictures are difficult to see around the house.
One of the most important things I help women with is becoming good pickers – you know, being able to spot the gems even when they’re not the obvious, shiny ones. He probably knows how to love, communicate, commit, work through problems and misses being married. I dated several widowers in my single decades and had an extended relationship with one.
Having a good picker means not only that you learn how to spot and avoid the jerks, but even more importantly, that you don’t miss the really good guys. When a man is in a happy relationship he pours himself into it. We’ve experienced a lot: love, heartbreak, successes, failures – and having lost a spouse is a very real possibility. I have also spent the past 8 years closely observing many women as they dated Ws.
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