' " my friend texted on a recent Tuesday while I was riding BART. For the past week, I realized, I had been too busy living "The Bachelorette." I'd been juggling guys and dates in a refreshing whirlwind of activity that, until recently, had been entirely foreign since I'd re-entered the singles scene almost a year ago. Census data show there are more single men than single women under 65 (though in San Francisco that doesn't necessarily mean single men who want to meet women).
And according to a Facebook study of its users conducted last fall, San Francisco rates highest among major American cities on the ratio of single men to single women.
The premise is simple; the practice, revolutionary.
"It's like being at a cocktail party or a coffee shop," says Tinder co-founder Justin Mateen of Tinder's way of mimicking real-life interactions. For the past week, I'd been evaluating guys on my commute (what's with all the facial hair?
with every disappointment it’s a little more difficult to stay positive.
Instead of sorority houses, they’ll troll bars every weekend with that tired mentality when it comes to women.
Kevin Lewis, an assistant professor of sociology at UC San Diego, blames the Bay Area's progressive gender norms, with men less likely to believe they need to make the first move.Call it digital courage, where "approaching" a girl is as easy as jamming out a text message and in which there are unlimited (and willing) fish in the sea.Given all of the above (tech-friendly early adopters, jacked-up courting habits, rejection-shy geeks), it's no wonder that San Francisco's residents are flocking to the efficiency of dating digitally.After a 30-second setup that pulls photos and basic stats from a user's Facebook profile, users scroll other Tinderites filtered by age, gender and geographic proximity.With each profile, you can see shared friends and interests, browse photos and swipe left for "no," right for "yes." When two people say "yes" to each other, the magic happens: You're given the power to chat.