This stems from their problems with social skills and communication. An AS man may have a pet (often a dog) that he becomes quite attached to.The pet is a friend that does not place demands on the man and accepts him as he is. AS males may seem set in their ways and can appear to be selfish or insensitive.A special interest (e.g., coin collecting) is common in males with AS, and this may be something they have pursued for years.
I have great Spectrum friends and we have fortnightly family get-togethers that are huge fun. We understand each other’s body language; eye-contact is not a problem nor is bluntness and honesty in conversation. I wish I had read it about 15 years ago, before I married my husband in 2000. I am a physician myself who has worked with many children with DD and have also been reading every book I could find on the subject since I realized Aspergers was likely the cause of my husband's odd behaviors.
But for the purposes of this post, we will focus on some of the features associated with AS that can negatively impact romantic relationships.
Men with AS often have some of the following traits, but they will vary in both number and level of severity from person to person: 1.
This is often the result of bullying and exclusion by their peers when they were younger. Teamwork may pose a problem, and the AS man may function better if he is in a separate office without noise or distracting social interaction. When courting a lady, an AS man may come across as quiet and reserved.
In marriage, these qualities may become a point of contention if his spouse/partner becomes frustrated by his lack of communication.