Ephesians 5:3 says, "But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints." The New International Version puts it this way, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." Anything in a premarital relationship that hints of sexual immorality – like dry sex, foreplay, nudity, sleeping in the same bed, pornography, and the like – is unacceptable.
Emotional: Often, dating couples who have chosen to abstain from physical intimacy still struggle with emotional intimacy.
Recognizing personal healthy boundaries is the first step, but physical boundaries should be mutually established prior to physical contact.
In the heat of the moment, it is difficult to stop a kiss that is later regretted.
If both parties know the limits beforehand, maintaining boundaries becomes easier.
Boundaries for physical touch should be a matter of prayer and discussion.
Our relationship with God is perhaps the most intimate thing we have.
When we invite others into this, we are inviting them into intimacy. First Thessalonians 4:3-7 says, "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you.
Each person should be aware of the meaning he or she attaches to certain gestures when considering appropriate boundaries.
It is also wise to be aware of whether certain physical touches lead a person to desire more intimate touch.
For example, does a hug of greeting quickly lead to a make-out session?
These are not a matter of personal meaning or choice.
It is inappropriate to have sex, in any form, prior to marriage.